The Power of Eye Gazing: How it can help us to create a better connection with each other
It is thought by many that the eyes are the windows to the soul and that by looking into someone’s eyes you are able to see their true self. Now for anyone who has experienced the incredible power of eye gazing, this is indeed true as it undoubtedly creates a great feeling of love and oneness with the person you are eye gazing with.
The first time I experienced eye gazing I was at a women’s gathering where eye gazing was one of our planned activities for the evening. I remember the feeling that struck me at the thought of having to hold another person’s gaze for an uncertain period of time. It was this feeling of awkwardness and fear as I was not used to looking into someone’s eyes without at least talking or smiling.
We quickly paired ourselves up and I found myself looking into the eyes of a woman who, unlike me, showed no feelings of discomfort or embarrassment. At first, I found the feeling of looking straight into someone’s eyes so unsettling and uncomfortable – this was not an activity I was used to and I didn’t know how to get around these awkward feelings. I was struggling to fight the urge to look away or smile but then I came to the realisation that the only way I could get around these feelings was to surrender to what was happening, take it seriously and enjoy it.
The feeling of needing to smile or look away then vanished and I found myself looking into, not only her eyes but what felt like a deeper part of her being. I became unaware of all that was going on around us and just felt this intense connection with her and an energy exchange occurring between us. I felt overwhelmed by this beauty that I saw shining from her eyes and this love that I felt for her.
After experiencing what this practice has to offer, I felt the urge to share the power that it holds and encourage others to start looking into the eyes of our fellow humans. In today’s modern society and, in particular, large cities where people are huddled together in cramped public transport, there seems to be a great aversion to eye contact with many attempting to divert their eyes in public. Most who frequent the Underground here in London, (admittedly myself included at times) fear catching the eye of a stranger and the awkwardness that ensues for it is often either percieved as confrontation or rudeness. This just goes to show that we have truly lost touch with the power of looking into another human’s eyes and instead of perceiving it as something powerful, we perceive it as awkward and uncomfortable.
So why is it so special looking into someone’s eyes? Can we offer any scientific, logical answer or even spiritual answer to this question? I don’t think we can. Some spiritual teachers might argue that this magical feeling is down to us recognising the divine within the other person whilst others might argue that it is because we are recognising our shared humanity.
In my own opinion, I feel that eye gazing is one of those practices that is understood by the heart rather than the mind and one has to experience it to how truly special it is. I believe it best not to over analyse why we feel what we feel during this experience but appreciate it and just observe the silent magic that it holds.
In my own experience, practising eye gazing has been one of the most powerful things I have ever experienced. I found that it can create a connection with another human being that I believe is different from any connection you could attain through verbal communication or physical contact.
This experience has shown me how valuable this practice is and how it can help us to create a better connection with our fellow humans. We currently live in a society where there is disconnection and isolation everywhere we turn so anything that can help us to heal this sickness is something we should really give some careful consideration to. It also has the potential to help us cultivate better relationships with our loved ones whether they are family, friends or spouses (here is a useful article for practising eye gazing with others). Right now I believe that, as a society, we need to make more effort connecting with one another and I feel that eye gazing is one place we can start.